WRITTEN: December 14th 2010

Sometimes I just don’t get people. Actually most of the time I really DON’T get them at all. I am in no way perfect by any means at all, but there are a few things I try to do as a person.

#1 I try to be as honest as I can. That tends to show those around you that you are real and true. Besides if you don’t lie there really isn’t a reason to have a good memory about anything. I’ve messed up, sure. However there are those who make an ART out of being nothing but a liar. They sit and convince you that the blue sky you’re looking at is green for no other reason that to just…lie.

I do NOT get that.

The second thing I try to do as a general rule of thumb is to just be myself man. I realize that being me may not make 90% of those around me comfortable but I feel that really has nothing to do with me being me, it has to do with them not being comfy with themselves. Make sense?

I love to laugh, at anything.

It’s an important trait I was blessed with through my mom and I like to think I’m passing it along to my kids as well. Laughter will get you out of the craziest of situations.

I cry at anything too. I’m an emotional freak. Some may review tears as a weakness but why? That’s just dumb. It’s anything BUT a weakness man. Crying could mean just about anything.

You’re angry,

sad,

depressed,

happy,

or just plain…done.

#3 I still hold true to my heart for that traditional way of life. You know? Where the man is so selfless he thinks of your feelings first. Where you are walking through a parking lot and he guides you over to the inside of him so you aren’t walking in way of traffic but yet HE is?

How beautiful is that?

To give you his jacket without even asking if you are cold or not, but assuring you that no matter what he is looking out for your best interest always.

A hopeless romantic to the bone.

It MUST still be out there right? A love that shows no bounds? I just can’t believe it doesn’t happen or it is no longer real.

Those three things are VERY important at who I am and how I view other people.

So when someone lies to me or about me or even about those I love the most, it tends to screw up the whole process to me. A few times I can understand, maybe even overlook. However you do it over and over and over there is obviously a problem and if you tend to lie so easily then you obviously are nothing more than fake. And if you are fake, then the “feelings” you have for me are fake and I can’t dig on that at all. When people lie you can…Well I handle them one of two ways.

I keep them at a “safe” distance from me, not allowing them to get close enough to hurt me…Or…I just cut them off at the knees, metaphorically speaking of course 😉

Cut off all ties and communication with that person because they are nothing more than sheer venom. I feel as though people who continue to lie only want the worst for you. That whole thing of “what they don’t know won’t hurt them” is a load of bullshit. That’s a shady way of getting others in on your dishonest behavior and venomous actions as a…”friend.” It’s sad to think there are people out there like that but sad reality is, there are. They can’t stand knowing someone has something they want or that someone is truly happy while they soak in there misery of whatever victim card they decide to wave around.

It makes me sick to know all of the “friends” I’ve wasted time and seasons on. Poured out my soul and shared my tears only to find they are nothing more than sad, spiteful, evil sacks of flesh who want nothing more than to bring you down into there own life of misery and bitterness. They long to rip from your spirit the confidence in you that has taken your whole life to build.

You need to be careful because something like that is rare and beautiful.

Confidence is a gift you give to yourself and once you allow someone to beat it away from you and steal it it’s gone.

It’s not something that can be replaced so easily or put back in order once they are removed.

People who do this to another human being is nothing more than vile and cruel.

It’s important to stay true to you, be who you are and make no excuses for it.

If people are irritated, unaccepted or bothered by you simply staying genuine and honest then it is not YOU with the problem…however them.

 

CHERyL~